I've been a bit too caught up in self-pity lately to report glad tidings and the reason for the big grins above: the spectacular Coalescent Boy received word that his funding came through for the rest of his PhD.
CB is possibly the one reason I'm still standing right now. As the year's progressed, I've found that, more and more often, he's the one who always seems to know what to say when I'm down -- or, if he doesn't know, he still senses what not to say, or what gesture would be just enough to make me feel like smiling. Even when I'm at my worst, he always listens to the grumbling, the crying, the bitching. It's been almost three years since we started dating, and every day the way I feel about him becomes more integral to who I am.
I always shied away from the idea that it was a good thing to make someone part of you, because somehow I associated that with relinquishing my identity, or at least subsuming my life to someone else's. Instead, I've learned that he makes me more of a person. Better. Happier. Braver. Still me, but somehow new and improved.
Congrats again, mi amor. This hasn't been the easiest year, but there's still nowhere else I'd rather be.
4 comments:
Awww--newlyweds! That's so sweet!
Congratulations! Congratulations! Oh, that's just fantastic. Sad for me since it means you'll be out of the country longer, but just terrific nonetheless!!
PS: Since Bosmaijin, I have definitely reconsidered "The Poisonwood Bible" and enjoy reading it once again. I still, however, prefer Barbara Kingsolver's other works over it. Oh, and I don't remember if I mentioned this last time, but her writing style in the essays reminds me a little of yours. Creepy, yes. But I think that's why I like them so much!
Your Moronic Stanford friend who only managed to write 11.5 pages of a 30 page paper this weekend and who has now confined her evenings to the third-or-so level of hell if she wishes to finish.
Dear Moronic Stanford Friend,
Have no fear - your even more idiotic Cambridge amiga managed to blow an entire evening last night -- an evening! -- even though she only has two days left here...
Stupid, stupid, stupid me. I will definitely check out the essays. I've been terrible about reading Kingsolver's work, and I know I'm deficient. :)
Congrats on the PhD funding! It must be such a relief. As a grad student, I understand. Hope you had a nice toast for the occasion.
Now your insane berkeley friend needs to get some sleep, after getting back from the conference in in-the-middle-of-nowhere, insanely-expnsive-to-fly-to Cornell.
-berkeley girl
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